Nov 20, 2022 |
Forgive and Remember
| The Rev. Philip DeVaul
Forgive and Remember
Are we capable of forgetting the things that have harmed us? Honestly, if we're being real? No. So then we actually just go, well, forgiveness is this thing I'd like to be able to do, but it's not going to happen. And then Jesus, instead of being a person, we're meant to follow down the way of love. Jesus just becomes some religious superhero that can do things we couldn't possibly imagine, like forgive people. Except that we are meant to forgive people. Even when forgetting is not part of the picture, we are meant to forgive. What then is forgiveness if it's not about forgetting?
The reason I'm harping on this for us is it damages our relationship with God if we think that God needs to forget everything we've done in order to forgive us. Think about that for a moment. God can only love me if God forgets all of the things I've done wrong. Or God loves me so much that God just forgets all of the ways I've harmed God and my neighbor and my world.
If we think like that, then that's how we will live in our relationship to forgiveness with others. I don't know how to forgive them because I can't forget it completely. They will never be able to love me fully unless they can forget the terrible, stupid things I've done to them.
What an impossible place we've placed ourselves.
The reason I'm harping on this for us is it damages our relationship with God if we think that God needs to forget everything we've done in order to forgive us. Think about that for a moment. God can only love me if God forgets all of the things I've done wrong. Or God loves me so much that God just forgets all of the ways I've harmed God and my neighbor and my world.
If we think like that, then that's how we will live in our relationship to forgiveness with others. I don't know how to forgive them because I can't forget it completely. They will never be able to love me fully unless they can forget the terrible, stupid things I've done to them.
What an impossible place we've placed ourselves.